Midlife Connection: Join Our Tribe

Midlife Connection: Join Our Tribe

Why is Connection Important?

 

Connection is one of the most powerful human needs there is.  It has been since the beginning of time. We all want a sense of belonging to something, a feeling of community.  Healthy relationships offer us connection, security, and purpose.

 

a black and white photo of a group of young women sitting on the grass
My grandmother Zelda, at age 20, is the center-back young woman. In this photo she is with a group of her friends/coworkers in Milwaukee, WI. I can see where I get my curls and dimples from. She lived until the age of 98!

 

Through the practice of opening our hearts, sharing, and connecting we can develop a deep sense of belonging. The most important aspect of a healthy tribe is for all group members to retain their individuality and authenticity within the group experience. There is no need or desire for anyone to conform to any set of standards or expectations.

 

According to researcher Brené Brown, the opposite of belonging is fitting in. If you have traded your true self in order to feel connected, you need to find a new group.

 

It is easy to feel disconnected in our world, with all the business and chaos that often surrounds us. This is not a healthy way to live. We all need to feel like we are a part of something bigger than us. We need our people–we need a tribe to help ground us when we become overwhelmed and need a stabilizing force.

 

Busy people in casual clothes on the street.

 

I love the quote by the late, great Maya Angelou “You only are free when you realize you belong no place – you belong everyplace – you belong no place. The price is high. The reward is great.” I believe we must be okay to walk alone, to savor our beliefs and values at all cost, in order to find true connection and develop healthy relationships.

 

The Solution

 

According to Seth Godin, blogger and influencer, “It’s tribes that can change the world.”  Creating the life you want through the connections you make offers camaraderie and support along your journey. Through these relationships we have the ability to grow and expand our world, even to make a difference in the lives of others.

 

So what do we do?

 

I propose we start our own connection movement–a tribe of midlifers–-a Boom Tribe. I ask you to join us and help us become the bridge needed to create a community based in inclusion, support, courage, and joy. My hope is you can find what you need here!

 

digital visualization of a bridge with a rainbow behind it

 

Watch Brené Brown discuss her latest book Braving the Wilderness.

Read our post on Vulnerability.

 

“Paradise has never been about places.

It exists in moments. In connection.

In flashes across time.”  – Victoria Erickson

 

Please share your thoughts on the need for connection either personally or globally. Also, what do you need from this tribe?

 

Peace & Love, Janet & Sandra

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Midlife Bloomers: Pinterest Group Board

Midlife Bloomers: Pinterest Group Board

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Join our Pinterest Group Board Midlife Bloomers. Share pins with blog posts related specifically to the midlife experience. Lifestyle, relationships, travel, self-care, or creativity.

 

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Your pin and content must be midlife-focused. This can include helpful tips on any of the above categories that a person in midlife could benefit from. No blogging or website design tips or information–there are plenty of these available. Pin up to 5 pins a day. If you get spammy, we will remind you nicely. If it continues you will be removed from the group.

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On the contact form share your email address used for your Pinterest account and the name you use on Pinterest. We will be in touch soon!

 

We are excited to have you with us on our Midlife Bloomers Pinterest Group Board!

Janet & Sandra

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Join Our Tribe for Authentic Connection

Join Our Tribe for Authentic Connection

We Invite You to Connect with Boom Tribe

 

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The Need

 

One of the most powerful human needs is connection. We all want a sense of belonging to something, a feeling of community.  Healthy relationships offer us a feeling of completion in our own lives along with a sense of purpose.

 

Through the practice of opening our hearts, sharing, and connecting we can develop a deep sense of belonging. The most important aspect of a healthy tribe is your ability to retain your individuality and authenticity within the group experience.

 

According to researcher Brené Brown, the opposite of belonging is fitting in. If you have traded your true self to be a part of something in order to feel connected, you need to find a new group.

 

a basket with a tribe of kittens

 

I love the quote by the late, great Maya Angelou “You only are free when you realize you belong no place – you belong everyplace – you belong no place. The price is high. The reward is great.” I believe we must be okay to walk alone, to savor our beliefs and values at all cost, in order to find true connection and develop healthy relationships. 

 

The Solution

 

According to Seth Godin, blogger and influencer, “It’s tribes that can change the world.”  Creating the life you want through the connections you make offers camaraderie and support along your journey. Through these relationships we have the ability to grow and expand our world, even to make a difference in the lives of others. 

 

So what do we do?

 

I propose we start our own connection movement–a tribe of midlifers–a Boom Tribe. I ask you to join us and help us grow a community based in joy, courage, and inclusion. My hope is you can find what you need here!

 

Watch Brené Brown discuss her latest book Braving the Wilderness.

 

Please share your thoughts on the need for connection either personally or globally. Also, what do you need from a tribe?

 

Peace & Love, Sandra

 

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Midlife Friendship: Defying Time and Space

Midlife Friendship: Defying Time and Space

A picture of Sandra and Janet in their Cowgirl hats

 

Friendship: Midlife Connections

 

Each friend represents a world in us,

 a world possibly not born until they arrive.

  – Anaïs Nin

 

Middle School!

 

1972:  Meeting of the hearts, minds, and souls, i.e. 5th grade

1981:  Joy– Best friends graduate from Iola-Scandinavia HS

1981-2014:  We both played many roles through the years: wives, mothers, students, divorcées, among many others.  We made an honest effort to connect and catch up whenever both of us were able.  The frequency in which we had the opportunity to spend time together varied, but the depth of our friendship, and our ability to pick up right where we had left off, never did!

2015-2017:  The past few years have offered us the ability to spend more time together and expand our friendship to a new level. Discussing our dreams and visions for how we would like to create our midlife experience came up often. These conversations included many dimensions of our lives, including our careers. A plan started to form to create a business with the intention to help others. We wanted to inspire, motivate, and normalize the experience of middle age, and add some fun whenever possible.

Read our post on Midlife Connection

But how? Initially we wanted to create a cool store and have workshops and gatherings, some to raise funds for neglected animals and domestic violence awareness, two topics near and dear to our hearts. We lived across the country from each other, so this seemed an impossible plan. Finally, one day, it hit me. I could create a website and we could blog and vlog about all we had learned along the way, and our current lives. And here we are!

 

 

What does our friendship mean to us?

 

Janet’s Perspective 

Write a description of what our friendship means to me? To keep this to one or two paragraphs will be extremely tough!

Our friendship has spanned over almost our entire lifetime-since 5th grade to be exact. When I met Sandra she immediately became a wonderful friend and support person. She was accepting of who I am for the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Sandra passes no judgment and is very forgiving. This is important– I am an Aries and have a strong, impulsive personality. As a Leo, she is up for the challenge.

When we hang out, it is such a great time no matter what we do. Most important to me is the fact that we are able to laugh and cry together through all of life’s ups and downs.

Above all else, I know in my heart our friendship will last a lifetime!

 

Sandra’s Perspective

Our friendship has weathered many twists and turns. It is complex and multifaceted, and an important part of my life.

Over the years we have stayed in touch, some years better than others.

Our individual journeys add up to 4 divorces (2 each), higher education, poverty, domestic violence, career exploration, and six kids (Janet-4, me-2), a move across country to Arizona ten years ago (Janet) and many highs and lows in-between. Through it all we have managed to stay in touch.

Research has shown long-term friendships require nurturing and soul connection. Janet and I are proof that the many rewards of a committed, indelible friendship are worth the energy, time, and thought needed to foster a relationship.

I believe our friendship has survived due to the trust we have built, the history we have shared, and intermittent doses of spending time together and cultivating what began many years ago.

We have this brilliant ability to finish each other’s statements and partake in the insightful, yet, at times, wicked, but always honest discourse we share on the beauty, joy, and inevitable chaos life is.

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We have a grand time together; Janet is a hoot and always up for a road trip or some new adventure. You have probably read the quote about friend’s who make you laugh so hard you pee a little? Yes, I can relate!

I love Janet for her uncompromising honesty, unconventional attitude, and adventurous approach to life.

Others might have difficulty coping with  her lack of regard for meeting the expectations of others. I, however, find her ability to put the shit out there quite refreshing!

As a great Irish writer once said of friendship:  

 

“A true friend stabs you in the front.” – Oscar Wilde

 

I believe our friendship has survived and thrived due to the trust we have built, the history we have shared, and intermittent doses of bridging the gap and cultivating what began many years ago. One day, we will be two elderly hippie-chicks raising hell in a gated community somewhere warm. A connection like this is priceless!

 

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